Laugh At Yourself
Updated: Apr 18, 2020
Calling all perfectionists out there!! This one is for you coming from a perfectionist myself. I like to call myself an ex-perfectionist now though, but let’s be real perfectionism is hard to break up with.
A lot of my anxiety stems from perfectionism for sure which I think is pretty common in the anxiety world. I used to (and when I say used to, that doesn’t mean it’s not the case anymore) think EVERYTHING had to be perfect. Down to every single detail. I‘ve talked about this before, but I used to have to read an email at least ten times before I sent it. After I sent it I would then go back and analyze every one of my sentences trying to figure out what the person would think while reading it. Would they be judging me? Do I sound good enough? ETC.
When I had my mental breakdown, I realized that I had been living my life trying to please everyone else in my life, but myself.
Any extreme people pleasers out there?!
That led me to the point of hospitalization! I learned that before I was making decisions I would think if society or others would approve of it. Rarely did I put myself first in my decision making which sounds so crazy to me now!
A skill that I’ve learned with my anxiety/perfectionism/pleaser tendencies is to be able to laugh at myself. Growing up I never did this because if I messed up that meant that I was not being perfect. Which meant I was not good enough. Now I love laughing at myself when I do something silly because I know how exhausting taking yourself so seriously is. Laughing at myself makes me recognize my mistake and then instead of letting that one mistake ruin the rest of my day,
I remind myself that it’s OKAY to not be perfect.
In fact, now I think my “flaws” are my favorite parts about me because they make me ME.
I don‘t want to live my life the way I thought society wanted me to. I want to live my life the way that I want to because there’s a lot less stress involved! Also, a good tool to keep in your back pocket is the saying,
“Well it’s good enough!”
Obviously I’m not saying to say this about everything, but I’m saying to say it if you catch yourself stressing out about something minor. For example, I now tell myself this after I read an email twice before I send it. If I read through it twice and find no mistakes, then instead of reading it another 8 more times I just send it and move on with the rest of my day!
Wellllll that’s all I have for now because I have dozens of emails to write to principals at elementary schools. I’ll definitely be telling myself it’s good enough a lot!