Live Life The Way You Want To, Not The Way You Think Others Expect You To.
Updated: Apr 18
I remember my therapist told me one of my first sessions with her, “Once you start living your life the way you want to and not the way you think other people want you to, life gets a whole lot easier.” I didn’t believe her at the time because I couldn’t imagine a life without worrying what others thought of me. However, fastforward two years.. I think I’m living that easier life she was talking about.
Of course, I still sometimes worry about what others think of what I say or do. It’s only human of me too. However, I’m not letting those thoughts control every decision in my life. I’m letting my values lead me.
Before my hospitalization and therapy, I was living my life the way I thought others expected from me. In fact, halfway through college I realized I was in the wrong major. I wanted to be in Early Childhood Education, but was in Elementary Education. I just stuck with Elementary because I thought I would look stupid changing majors and didn’t want to have to explain myself. Sooo I spent two years of school knowing I wasn’t in the right major! Who does that?! Oh yeah, me and probably other people pleasers!
I kind of lived my life like this for a long time because I didn’t know of any other way to live it. I was so consumed by what others thought of me that I didn’t even listen to my own wants and needs! Well you can only live that way for so long until you crash and burn OR realize you don’t have to live that way! Unfortunately, I crashed and burned and ended up in the hospital. So I’m writing this for those who may be living their life this way and suggest you not to live that way! If you want to change your major, do it! If you want to live a certain way, do it! Don’t let the worry of what others think dictate your life. You’re in charge!