The Anxiety That Comes Along With Moving Away
Updated: Apr 18, 2020
I cannot believe my husband and I have already been in our house for a year. It’s our houseiversary today!! Two years ago, is when we moved to Valparaiso (which was out of state for the both of us) right after graduating college. And let me tell ya... the anxiety was real! It actually kind of crept up on me... cue hospitalization.
In college, I lived with three of my friends and when I went home I was surrounded by parents and siblings. I played softball all of my life, so there really was no point in my life where I felt completely isolated. UNTIL after I moved away with my now husband. My husband is the type of guy who isn’t afraid to start a conversation with anyone. Me on the otherhand, I feel uncomfortable making eye contact with new people. In the past, I had always been “given” people because I was always on a team! It kind of starts out as a forced friendship, but ends up blossoming into a beautiful sisterhood.
So how the heck am I supposed to make friends on my own?! I remember feeling so lonely and kind of like a loser because the only person I had in town was my husband. This led to me accepting my isolation instead of de-isolating myself (is that a word? lol) I had no support group close by which terrified me and made me want to move closer to my family and friends! However, life doesn’t work that way and I’m glad it doesn’t because now this town feels like home.
It took me a long time to find my people and place in this town, but I’m so glad we stayed. Moving away from family and friends (even if it’s only an hour and a half away) is a great test for your anxiety. Let me tell ya, I got an F- the first few months. However, now I like to think I am at a solid B+ right now. I improved because I started joining groups, volunteering and I started talking to people! If you’re a 20 something year old living away from your support group, you got this! You may feel terrified and lonely now, but you’ll get there. It’ll all be worth it!