The Common Phrase That Is Wrong When It Comes To Your Mental Health
We all know the saying, "Treat others how you want to be treated" because it's been a go-to piece of advice given by most parents. However, should we listen to it? Growing up I secretly loved this sentence even when it was told to me after I teased one of my brothers. The simple sentence is hard not to have engrained in your head.
Growing up I was a people pleaser. I wanted to be nice to everyone even if they weren't necessarily nice to me. I literally treated other people with all that I had, expecting the same type of treatment in return. HA. Little did I know that's not how the world worked. Even if you treat someone like they are worth a million bucks, they may treat you like you are worth nothing. You can pour out all of your energy and love into someone and they couldn't care less. This led me to have many moments of disappointment.
You think I would learn from the first few times? Maybe I would start sticking up for myself when I was being treated wrong... nope. Maybe I would stop being kind to others who had done me wrong... nope. I'm not saying that this led me to go into a deep depression, but it sure did play a role into it all.
My deep depression led me to learn one of the most important pieces of advice anyone could give me, which was to love myself and treat myself. I learned this from my hospitalization. It's sad that this is how I had to learn this but I'm thankful that I've learned it, so I can share this with you now. So, you don't have to get to such a low point in your life to hear this.
It took me until I was 23-years-old to create my own piece of advice. It's to 'treat yourself how you would treat others'. If one of your friends told you that they felt useless, would you tell them "Yeah, you're right." No. Then why do we let ourselves believe that we are useless? Why do we let our negative thoughts put us down? Instead of self-shaming or self-harming how about you start to self-love. Whether that means to go buy yourself some flowers or do something that makes you feel good, just do it! That's probably how you would treat one of your loved ones that was suffering.
I'm not saying this is easy because it's not. But it's worth trying. For those of you who get suffocated by your own thoughts, try looking at them as someone you love saying that about themselves. What would you say to them? Would you encourage the negative thought and let it keep spiraling down? Or would you find anything to help them realize that they are more than they think they are? Think about it.
Start treating your mental health how you would treat someone else's mental health. That most likely means with love and support. Not harm. Be aware of the negative thoughts you have, but then prove them wrong. Show them you are much more than your flaws. You are worth it.